She sent nude photos, masturbation videos, and hundreds of messages to my husband. It taught him there wasnt a limit to what I could cope with - but yes she did turn to him for comfort and played the guilt card. Be intentional with your healing with this, Hope for Healing Registration Soon! It didnt seem to bother her that he was lying to her - she just said what fun he must be having sleeping with us both. How absolutely wonderful that only a year after you two get married she is ALREADY involved with another man. In such situations, it's not realistic to expect your spouse to stay neutral. of the situation. In such a situation, the other person may be able to gain the upper hand by saying things which make you look foolish or not in control Too late for this article. I don't think that is a path you want to go down, unless you want to be a cuckold husband. Please note: The suggestions and advice offered on this web site are opinions only and are not to be used in the place of professional psychological counseling or medical advice. Two weeks later I drafted a letter and sent it through email. But the biggest reason not to confront the affair partner? Butbe prepared for her to deny and deny and deny until confronted with that proof. No. I just need some answers and I am not getting them! What if you should meet up with her by chance? In fact, it's a natural, self-protective response. Thank you everyone for your patience and understanding in this matter. Babe, in case you have not noticed (not your "world") but your M has collapsed. The PI will further advise you about the possible routes you can take from that point on, possibly: a) legal route leading to separation/divorce. She has always been better, sexier, freer, happier, more confident than me - in my head. Without her in it. It makes sense to want to hurt the other person for bringing so much misery into your life. remember, you are confronting someone who has little regard for your feelings and who, moreover, is someone who your spouse may love. Amazing. Spaces fill up quickly for this course. If you really think she will change then I have huge admiration for you, but it'll be a rough journey and you need to be able to be open with each other. And so forth. Cheater 101 dude. She woman would rather call the police and have me slapped with a warning THAT WILL show up on enhanced criminal record checks for life than have a conversation with me. And perhaps the most surprising feeling of all- elation, mixed with relief. Talking to the affair partner is comparing apples and oranges. I'm sure I'll look back at the events unfolding and advise someone in exactly the same way, but at the moment it's not that simple. Make it CLEAR that you're aware of the truthbut be vague on details. Told her to call him and tell him HER HUSBAND wants to talk to him. Goes to show you its all their own issues, not anything to do with us. Rest assured that your PI and attorney have tied things neatly together. You can't stop these people if they are determined and have a willing participant. Dude, you need to calm down, relax completely, and get your emotions under TOTAL control. If I confront her lover and we ended up fighting and I am badly injured, I am the one that will be ashamed. Knowing that my wife has been distracted by a man and I am even aware of the person is hurtful in itself. I also wanted an apology from him to me and my wife for exploiting and taking advantage her. I would have asked openhanded questions to see what his responses would be and compare them to what my wife said. roll out! 4) If you divorce use infidelity as the reason and DO NOT TELL HER!!! When you have a PI on your corner, he will ask you to stop shadowing her or tinkering with her email etc. Even a family member, but if your spouse was your confident, you should work on that friend circle soon. No matter how much I feel like she is the enemy and is not a good person, it was my husband's responsibility to put a stop to this craziness and he has not done that. What happened with you two? That is all. Don't hector, beg, or argue. We often think talking to the affair partner will make us feel better or help us find answers. KEEP IT FOCUSED ON HER ACTIONS, NOT YOURS. I can honestly say now that i have forgiven my husband, and that feels so good. For others, it may be a need to face their fears. She was just trying to "rescue him." My wife says the affair lasted two months and they never had sex, but I don't believe she is being truthful with me about that. After he reached out to my wife months later (apparently feeling brave after a few months), I told his wife. The day she is served the papers, her world will come crashing down hard around her. If you are going to talk to him, it is probably best to be honest about how you are feeling without casting it as doing him a favor. If you are reading this here, can you let me know? I didnt even have to show her the evidence. He wanted change, but instead of fixing the problems, he tried the easy way out. It was against my religion, but I had no choice. We treat each other differently now. His annoyance crossed the threshold when he saw the man responsible for everything on one of the channels. Designed specifically for wayward spouses, Hope for Healing is a supportive, nonjudgmental environment for you to heal and develop empathy. 1. Can't you see you're dealing with an uber being? The power will get transferred to you, while she thinks she has played you like a fiddle. Which brings us to the other reason you should not confront the affair partner 2. break off all contact with you till I was informed. I also told Recovery from my past relationship took over a year, but now Im completely better. You would then dictate from a position of power, absolute power. I will be stooping low and cheapening myself by confronting her in public. It only causes heartbreak for you. If you do not respect yourself then who will? You will more than likely blame yourself at some point, and then the blame will shift to another. Expose the affair to the OM's wife or girlfriend 4. Not yours. This seems cut throat, but will help you if a custody battle comes up. It gave me even more strength and let me feel better about myself. Part of HuffPost News. Do not tell her how you know. As @El and @happythoughts have stated, when one door closes, another opens. Confronting my wife - need advice. What made her upset was not her guilt of betraying you, it was the fact that her lover didn't want her any more. After my husband joined me at our new home in Nevada, she sent me messages under a fake name, at the same time sending him a cascade of messages which he ignored. I didn't want any details from the AP - he was 15 years older, weak, and very unattractive. And i would assume a great many of things as well. Before confronting your cheating spouse, you need to: 1) know what you want to achieve, 2) anticipate different responses you may get, and 3) prepare appropriate action. Our baby is now 8 mo. I managed to find some deleted text messages, I feel bad for doing so, but have now found out that she has been seeing another man from work. I even invited further contact so that she could 'work it out.'. First of all, even if he did say these things, (which he claims he didn't, but who knows the truth) how could you look your married lover's wife, one who just lost a much wanted pregnancy, straight in the eye and make these claims to her? Maybe she is ill and needs help, as her husband I should be there for her shouldn't I? You must stay calm, confident, loving, as always. I'd also add that if she's cheated this early into the relationshipthen honestly your chances of being married to a potential serial cheater are pretty high. I feel that it is great that you do the same . Though I run this site, it is not mine. Two days later because I was in the same town as she was I text her and asked if she would be willing to meet for coffee. expert. I promise. He bolted. He turned so pale, looking like he honestly thought Id never find out at all. How do I confront her? 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Until I did. Then I ghosted. Or is such a confrontation likely to scare the other person away? been seeing each other for some time he was her boss some ten years ago but when it got deeper Im unaware. You NEED to have an intimate support in your life, Im not meaning romantically, but someone to talk with on a deeply personal level. You'll probably fish more information out of her that way anyhow. A lying, deceitful, manipulator. What exactly can make my husband to shift attention from me to another lady to demand sex when I can give it to him? I would highly recommend giving this a try. She denied knowing he was ever married (lie) and blamed everything on him. I knew he would never try to contact me again after this conversation. . Contributors control their own work and posted freely to our site. I did send his ex wife (she was married to him at the time of the affair) confirming that he and my wife had had an affair. Not sure I agree with this. My wife confessed and begged me not to leave, because even though this guy had no other responsibilities and could've spent all his time lavishing my wife with attention, I still treated her better than he did even though I had a FT job, side business, employees, 4 young children, etc etc. I wish i had never done this and had never said anything to my H. Just for my ducks in a row and left preserving my dignity. Is your spouse the type of person to disclose your relational problems Dont think twice about it, or nickle and dime over it. She is not the woman you thought she was. So don't reveal how you know, just tell her you KNOW about ____________, (<--- insert other man's name here.). Should I just tell family members the truth about what happened, and let the damage fall out as it may, or should I agree with my wife to keep it a matter just between us two? After all her submitting to your needs and providing for you is words she herself said she would do upon agreeing to marrying you. But keeping secrets no. The thrill of being able to look at potential partners, innocently flirt a little when you meet someone new online/somewhere, make all of your own rules and eat what YOU want to. She was sick I insisted on being told the truth or she was to That's where all of us recovering from adultery need to focus. Truth About Deception back to our home page. To reclaim your self respect. Sure wish I would have read this post before I decided to confront. But it seems to be working for all parties concernedthe other guy, the wife, and strangely the husband as well, who despite her infidelity is still a very loving and devoted husband. Go get a big steak, go lift some weights and then think about this. While the reasons can vary, the desire to protect their relationship is a very strong and primary motivator. Ogun workers suspend strike after four days, Our correspondents went to town to sample the opinions of married couples to know if they would publicly confront individuals suspected of having affair with their spouses, My husband is the one Ill talk with -Rachael Olawode. Your heart is going to be torn to shreds, you self respect would be zero when all is said and done, and its going to leave a huge hole in your soul which would take a long time to fill, if ever. WebTheres no point in confronting those lovers. Even when you come in peace such individuals prefer trouble. How is it that someone can willingly mess with your life to this extreme and you can't even say boo to them because it makes them uncomfortable? Your It was helpful to me that I went into the marriage all those years ago with the attitude that I would not unnecessarily squander our marriage if he failed to live up to the commitment. If he sees a dress he likes and he cannot buy it for me but get it for another lady, then there is a problem and we have to solve it. To this day my ex wife does not know how I found out. Again, no need to initiate much commentary on the bare facts. Don't play your hand that you *know* about the other man. Ive accepted things and Ive moved on completely. If they cant give you that promise, you really dont have much to work with. Me? I never responded after that. It is better that I know him. Logically, I know she's crazy and was grasping at straws trying to "win." You posted a thread about your relationship problems a bit more than a month ago, in February, before you found out about her affair. Next, you must contact a good PI (Private Investigator/detective). They now live the life I was supposed to have. They don't even like for me to refer to him as their grandfather. It took my husband 7 weeks to fully disclose what had taken place. I could tell she didn't want to leave him. Thanks everyone for your messages. You will never be able to trust her, you'll be constantly checking up on her, whenever you are apart you will be torturing yourself with what she may be doing what kind of marriage is that??? In addition, (even though you do not wish it to be so) contact an attorney to understand your options and possibly an annulment. Everyone has their own style of conflict, which they tend to rely on when faced with an unexpected confrontation. There was little animosity because time has passed but now I see her as a pitiful creature, a habitual affair partner who cheated on the guys she was having affairs with even though they thought it was just them. This is bigger than us both. After 3 years, I still cant sleep and I think a healthy man to man is in order. When she returns home with her cum stained panty underneath, please hug her again, and tell her how much you love her, and how she is the apple of your eye. When it ces to the divorce, this is between you and her. My husbands job was about to dictate him to be working out of the town he and his AP spent time in on a two week gone one week home schedule for the next three months. Cheating is never good, and neither is confronting a cheater and hearing what they have to say. 1 year marriage, no kids, GET OUT. I wrote the AP a letter, letting her know that I was fighting for my marriage. It's not about me. Maybe she is ill and needs help, as her husband I should be there for her shouldn't I? I will confront my wife not her lover Peter Garuba. She'll use your snooping as her defence oldest play in the cheater's handbook. Would I do it again? So, I dunno, I think it's a case by case scenario. Meredith, I've been married for six years to the love of my life. Probably not. There are no secrets with her family. DONT confront your wifes lovers. I speak as an ex-lawyer. You start confronting those guys, and you just opened up a potential legal floodgate He may feel obligated to listen to her complain about you. But I'm glad I can but a nail in this coffin. And if he sense that you are not being straightforward with him, he is unlikely to be open and honest with you (see when people lie). I suppose she didnt give you the respect you deserve in that manner so Ill pick up and if youve got any questions for me nows the time to ask.". Mine lives on our Street. Then she changed her tune and told me "he'd never been in love with me and was going to start a new life with her." Worked in my case, but I get why you'd advise against it. But I would never answer the call. When the PI is done with his job, he will have a watertight folder of documentary evidence that nails her infedility. Hi Jeff. I wish that for your sake he won't want to say anything in reply to what you say, but knowing APs, he will and it will be unpredictable and probably extremely painful what he says in reply, even if it isn't founded on truth. She sent him a nasty gram including things like " I was forced to listen to her message" that she "almost felt sad for me listening to my voice" and when I asked her for "conformation of status" in my message she replied to him with "That girl has trust issues" he didn't reply. That we two have serious problems and good luck. Normally, when someone comes in asking what I think about talking to the affair partner I tell them, "Don't!" Your spouse has already betrayed your trust at a very basic level, so confronting the other person may What is your deal? Whats wrong with you? Leave the wife and go away its her fault to have her lovers all together. Get rid of her you dont need Im like you, hate and revenge are not a part of my vocabulary. You cannot. Let me spare you the trouble -- don't go there. My confronting is not done out of anger, I just give/gave the WOMEN a choice. This was 1.5 years ago and they have maintained a close friendship with her. September 9, 2011 6.16am. I think we have to clear the air. I don't blame her. It helped me although I didnt solicit her contact - it out a great many demons to rest. While you continue to play the dumb, trusting, naive husband. I need him to know for me. But that, in of itself is helpful. You are still alive, you can still make a go of a life that once was impossible can become reality. makes your wife really central. After the initial call she sent me several messages, talking about how sorry she was, and how hurt she felt at being deceived by him, and at first I responded. Its 3 years post D day next week and this is the one thing that has left me stuck! My head was kind of spinning due to this, and then I accidentally For instance, what if her lovers are more or I dont even know the person if she has only one lover. Therefore, I would talk to my husband instead of creating unnecessary drama. You really need to let go of this whole thing. It might also extend to the rules of law. If she is WebAny husband would be upset to learn that his wife is in love with someone else. situation and it may even complicate matters (as mentioned above). In a way, I was happy.it opened my husbands eyes to whom she really is, and it was my opportunity to show to him that Im the better, proud, string and wise woman. It is scary, but it is so worth it. To what extent do you think he or she knows about the nature of your relationship with your spouse? Recovery took a long time, but now we are getting better. My initial contact with my wife's AP was to let him know the gig was up. I wonder if she's still married to my ex-lover and if she's happy. It was her that needed the meeting, I thought to myself she would not be interested in anything I have to say, her aim is that I listen to what bothers her. You might delude yourself into thinking you need to talk with the affair partner for reconnaissance purposes. Apparently she has booked an appointment to see a councillor. It can start with your attitude and habits toward mudane chores, and grow into appreciation for the littlest of lifes pleasures. She knew I existed. If cheaters can't have secret cake (the affair and the marriage), they will settle for a public pick me dance. She again became very angry with him telling him it's not her problem. Yes, bills, parenting, and life goes on. Wednesday 18 January 2023 05:42, UK Anyhow, I stayed because of our daughter and I allowed it to be her one mistake. We found out that my wife was just one of at least a dozen other women he had affairs with and his wife was going to confront all of them face to face. It would be good if you both didnt yell anyone what had happened. Walking away from this lets you maintain your dignity and self respect. Which leads me to my current conundrum. As you already admitted, given the situation find yourself in, your self confidence is broken, you can not think straight, and your mind is just going crazy trying to make sense of it all. What if I dont know him? Got a response. I wouldn't wish this misery on anyone. I agree with this article. Each day with be different. Give your wife a sweet hug when she leaves for office. First, you must prepare yourself to deal with the situation in a mature manner and you You are no longer a husband, but an ex. You need to be honest, upfront, and confront her with what you know. I also wonder if her husband is still taking lovers and spending his days lying to all the women who hold him in their arms. My lover's wife ended the conversation by telling me how much she hated me and couldn't think of another person in the whole world that she despised more than me. I will not confront her. Good luck. She found my number on her husband's phone bill and called me. She is a third party and should not be involved in the matter in any way. Most likely, youll come across as being insincere and manipulative. WebMy lover's wife ended the conversation by telling me how much she hated me and couldn't think of another person in the whole world that she despised more than me. A: What you experience is a natural emotion of jealousy and insecurity. Can you give me any advice? If she is deceptive and lies about the affair then you have your answer you married a cheater. However, there IS good news for each confronting a cheater reaction. My head was kind of spinning due to this, and then I accidentally stumbled upon compelling evidence she was having an affair (a huge compilation of love emails between her and her lover that she had left on our shared dropbox account). In case the situation is getting out of hand, I would have a discussion with my husband. Every situation is unique, would I recommend it? Or ask your lawyer to depose them in your divorce (that gets settlement talks moving quite quickly I hear). He was old, ugly, and weak. Im so sorry to hear things ended up this way. So if you are confronting the other person as a means of venting or releasing anger be aware that there are more productive ways to accomplish this (see sothere[. altogether. Or ask your lawyer to depose them in your There is no way Im going to her workplace HR department about this, and to the extent I can avoid it, I dont want this to screw up her relationships with her family either- I do still care deeply about her and her family members, who Ive grown quite fond of over the years, and it would break my heart to see her alienated from her family. I never responded to her message..it must have sent her crazy as for Xmas she sent us a card with attached positive pregnancy test (certainly one bought on EBay!) You are also agreeing to our Terms of Service and Privacy Policy. What advice do you have for those us whom dont seek them, they seek us BS? She used the same kinds of words my lover did; you could tell that they were a couple. document.write(new Date().getFullYear()) Fairly abruptly, my wife told me she wanted a trial separation and moved out into her own apartment. Your son deserves to be in a positive environment. I dont have any business with the man. Most lovers look forward to meeting with the betrayed spouses because they wish to add salt to their injury. Almost a year later, I believe she is giving up. of which is counseling (see counseling resources). It's called buyers remorse. Quite a few members of the forum (including myself) replied thoughtfully to your thread there but you didnt return to it. Ill disgrace myself, kids, family if I do that- Ibrahim Badmus. Making a habit of going out of the house regularly will help tremendously with depression. The night before he dashed out, I found the log of his chat exchanges with her and confronted him. Do you really need this person harassing you and pressing charges? If she wants to end the relationship why doesn't she tell me? Are you sure it's a councillor not a solicitor? While Ricks writing addresses exactly the phase I am currently in, your words are the ones that hit home. The reality from her own words was that she will never be anyones number 1 and that hurts her deeply. The person I need to confront is my spouse. Thanks everyone for your advice, this is really helping me - I think this is what I needed - a bit of a slap! He played my wife for over 2 years and found her when she was most vulnerable in this long game. I'm the type of person that needs honest answers. Do not reveal how you know. The person I have business with is my husband not her-Tobiloba Oko-Oboh. and go bang other women! I have no idea whether they are still in touch. Maybe there'll be a duel! Its been so hard not knowing what she was thinking that I never responded to her ( she reached out and I ignored her) I now have a better understanding. It really is the worst! No response this time. 8 months after d day she emailed me an apology and wants to be cordial neighbors. That confusion, the distance, the glassy look that she has on display for the last month, is a typical symptom of wives/GFs who begin getting banged by another person. Have your lawyer write a no contact letter. After all is said and done, some of you will still feel an overwhelming need to confront the affair partner. I do understand what is being said here, because not all situations are going to turn out like mine did. Over this period of time I had to quit my job, sell my animals and go on medication. *You are continuous and undying. She vowed to leave him and told me she had divorce papers ready to go. Fairly abruptly, my wife told me she wanted a trial separation and moved out into her own apartment. But thank God I know! It only shows he does not respect me. There's nothing abnormal about a woman whose partner has cheated wanting to confront the other woman. If she INSISTS on evidence, ask her why she needs to see the evidence. I Literally just gave birth to his child and we live together. You! And she wanted details. My advice is that you need to confront your wife. Your relationship is with her, not with her lovers. It still hurts and I need to move on. Women have a way to keep their affairs hidden (though you did good to unearth it in time). Probably the most haunting aspect of the affair I had was how it finally ended: by speaking to my lover's wife on the phone. I know that sometimes in marriage distractions can set in. Your loving wife is not a seasoned serial cheaterat least not as yet. advantage during the initial confrontation, will that help you over the course of time? All Rights Reserved. As we discussed more, I think I understand more now. What you thought was your world is actually not the truth at all. Youre as naive as they come. I traveled to a random country and got off the plane realizing it was a Muslim country. You poor pathetic chump, begging for your marriage. I choose not to indulge or become a part of the negativity in the world. It was true, I DID have to have them. But damn if you cant make your own meaning out of it. You deserve to be a man again. Your wife is either going to fuck him and leave you, or fuck him and continue cheating on you. For me, it has helped immensely. I had two children with my loyal husband, ages 2 and the other 2 months old at the time. If you are going through it, I wish you faith, hope, and persistence. So so arrogant. Sorry, but better to find out now that she is what she is than 10 years down the road. She told me that my lover had said I was just a "dumb blonde" and that we were only friends. I'm hoping to be able to see the AP one day with no reaction. But I need him to know that I know, and to stay the hell out of our lives if we cross paths. I plan to confront him when this happens, for me. Sorry to say but time to grab a spine and MAN UP. It's all kibbles. Thank you!! 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